Breaking up is hard to do; it’s not just the title of a song, it’s the truth.
Sometimes people break up over silly things and sometimes people break up over something more serious.
Whichever case you may be experiencing, it needs to be dealt with using a calm and collected head.
That can be tough when you’re grief stricken and unable to focus your attention on anything for any length of time.
Luckily, someone has been exactly where you are and has written a thorough guide on how to cope with the break up.
Not just cope, but he actually goes a step further and offers you advice on knowing whether or not your relationship is truly over (and whether it’s for the best) and if it’s not, how you can get back your ex.
Here’s a quick overview of the book:
- Chapter 1: Understanding Why Your Relationship Ended (and Why It’s Not Over Just Yet)
- Chapter 2: Don’t Panic–Your Key to Winning Back Love (Getting Your Head on Straight)
- Chapter 3: Removing the Splinter in Your Relationship (Where Do You Stand?)
- Chapter 4: Re-igniting the Spark of Passion and Desire (The Plan)
- Chapter 5: Dates and Lovers–How Other People Can Actually Bring You Back Together with Your Ex
- Chapter 6: Easing Back Into Your Relationship to Solidify Your Love
- Chapter 7: Maintaining the Fun and Love without Dredging Up Old Wounds
- Chapter 8: When Your Relationship Can’t Be Saved–Moving On with Grace
Not only do you get an easy to read and follow guide with a step by step plan explaining how to salvage your relationship, it also includes the Magic Second Chance Letter (a life saver when you figure out that sobbing and begging for a second chance doesn’t really work) and the Clean Slate Method (when it becomes apparent that you just need to start fresh and your hackneyed apologies just falls on deaf ears).
Typically, manuals such as these just deliver the information in such a boring way that you tune out within a few pages, but TW Jackson keeps it lively and down to earth. Definitely recommended if you’re currently going through a break up or feel that your relationship could use a little pick-me-up.
Also, if you do decide to get a copy of this book, I’d recommend following the advice along with adding a couple personal affirmations into the mix. The affirmations will allow you to work on yourself while building your relationship with someone else.
Here’s one that should be helpful in such a situation:
I love myself and am capable of being loved. I show love and respect to others. Others show me love and respect. I show patience and compassion to others. Others show me patience and compassion. I am a good person and that goodness is reflected in all my interactions with others.
As always, feel free to modify the above affirmation until it feels comfortable for you personally or use it as is. But, make sure you say it at least 3 times before bed and when you wake up.
